While looking for a good teen magazine for her daughter, one reader stumbled onto an outdated link on National Review Online. The link was embedded in an old article. But instead of the family-friendly information it originally went to, the link lead to a porn site. The reader's husband called us, not because he was angry with NRO, but because he wanted to spare the next person who clicked the link. He wasn't surprised about the accidental link change since porn is legion on the Internet.

Access to porn is probably in your e-mail account's inbox right now. You're probably used to just manually erasing it as spam or setting up automated filters to block it out, but you know it's out there in a big way. What are you going to do?

The Hoover Institution's Mary Eberstadt calls it the new tobacco. The heights to which porn has been accepted in the mainstream represents “widespread tolerance, tinged with resignation about the notion that things could ever be otherwise.” We've taken a “full turn” in the last century in regard to tobacco and porn. “Yesterday, smoking was considered unremarkable in a moral sense, whereas pornography was widely considered disgusting and wrong - including even by people who consumed it. Today, as a general rule, just the reverse is true. Now it is pornography that is widely (though not universally) said to be value-free, whereas smoking is widely considered disgusting and wrong - including even by many smokers.”

It is, sadly, no surprise that porn is the most searched for and most profitable product on the Internet. But unless it violates the sensitivities of even the most desensitized, pornography is too widespread for many to bother to do anything but shrug or, even, to try to play along.

As with tobacco, this is not going to change overnight. But, as with tobacco, a change in perception wouldn't be bad for our health.

People seem to get that there is a problem, perhaps looking for someone to solve the problem that might be in their own home for them or otherwise hope it will go away. For her 2005 book “Pornified: How Pornography Is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships and Our Families,” Pamela Paul commissioned a Harris poll and found that “Despite widespread denial and the pervasiveness of outdated rationalizations, many Americans have a problem with the rampant spread of pornography.” She found that liberal or conservative, people were not widely opposed to the government doing something. “42 percent of Americans said the government should regulate Internet pornography specifically so that children cannot access X-rated material online and 13 percent said the government should regulate pornography in a way similar to cigarettes - with warning labels and restrictions to minimize harm.”

The question about the government is revealing. Pornographers can dismiss this, but divorce lawyers, clergy and therapists can tell you the damaging role it's playing in the married and unmarried lives of American couples.

The question about government is also, of course, alarming - to anyone who cares about freedom and the future of the Internet. Furthermore, as it affects our children and our families, it is a cultural copout of a solution.

Thinking about my caller and his wife and daughter, I've been flashing back to something Traci Lords once said: “I have to thank Ed Meese for saving my life.” At 18, her career as a porn star ended in a federal raid. How many Traci Lords are on a computer near you today? And who, besides Traci, is it harming? It's a question a society that in its rhetoric and culture says it cares about women and children and lives and love needs to grapple with.

Lopez is the editor of National Review Online

(www.nationalreview.com). She can be contacted at klopez@nationalreview.com