As we focus on the holidays and the desire to find gifts, plan and attend parties and make those around us happy in this beautiful season, we must remember to take care of ourselves. We become tired and overwhelmed and something as simple as remembering simple rules to stay safe may not be uppermost in our thoughts.

However, following a few precautions as we shop and party can keep this joyful season from being spoiled.

I love to shop, but am aware as I shop in the evening to park my car in a well lit, well traveled area. Since I can sometimes be a bit scatter brained as I think of all that I must accomplish in a short time, I have been known to forget where I have parked.

So at Christmas, because the malls will be crowded and parking lots full, take note of location markers so that you aren't wandering aimlessly around in the parking lot with your packages. Have your keys ready before you reach the car and try not to be so loaded down that you don't have a free hand. Look into your car before entering and put those gifts out of sight in the trunk if possible.

The key is keep alert and be aware of your surroundings.

If you can avoid taking small children shopping with you that is ideal because the little ones can easily become lost in a busy store. Of course shopping without the kids is not always possible, so keep a close watch on them. Explain the importance of their staying right by your side. Suggest that they hold your hand or hold onto your clothing. Have your eyes or hands on them at all times.

Talk to them about what they can do if you become separated. Tell them that they can ask a store employee or security officer for help. Emphasize that they are to stay in the area and never leave the store to look for you. Note what your child is wearing and carry a recent photo of your child with you. If you talk to your child regularly about safety your time shopping together will be more fun and less fraught with anxiety.

It's great to have fun at parties, but for those of you who like to have a drink or two while partying, remember that alcohol makes you more relaxed and could affect your judgment. Don't let a lack of judgment affect your safety.

No matter what you are drinking, watch your drink to be sure that nothing has been added to it. Don't leave your drink unattended even if you are going to the bathroom or dance floor. The buddy system works at any age, so have your friends watch out for you (and your drink) and you watch out for them. If someone you don't know offers you a drink, go with them to the bar and watch that nothing is added to your drink.

And of course if you meet someone new at a party, no matter how charming or attractive, don't go home with them or invite them to your place, or even accept a ride home with them. You can arrange to meet at another time in a public place until you get to know them better. Pay attention to your instincts. If something doesn't feel right avoid it and turn to your friends for support.

Remember that spending time with family and friends is the best gift for you and for them. Please have a joyful and safe holiday season.

Rosa Grube is an education coordinator for SAVAR of Cayuga Counseling Services