The holidays can be a very stressful time for some individuals. Along with good cheer comes stress. Financially the holidays take a huge toll on individual's pockets. Those who do not have a close network of family and friends may feel depressed and lonely at this time of year. Taking care of visitors, holiday parties, children, and vacations may stress individuals out to the point where they can't enjoy the holidays. Trying to make the holiday perfect is impossible yet people struggle to make it faultless. While many reflect on all that they have, an individual who is depressed or stressed can't help but dwell on what they are lacking; whether it is financial or emotional.

The financial burden of the holiday season can be very taxing, to say the least. Credit cards get maxed, bills get put on hold, and money seems to disappear into thin air. Just when you thought you were done shopping you realize you still have your boss' present, Secret Santa, the postal worker, and the group of friends you didn't realize were exchanging presents. Travel expenses begin to add up with gas prices, airlines, hotel stays, and attractions. Even cooking for the holidays becomes expensive with the necessity of buying extra goodies, food, and drinks to accommodate the large family coming over.

Overwhelming feelings of stress and tension build up during the holiday season. Balancing the demands of family, shopping, parties, plus the everyday stressors can take a toll on an individual. Those who do not feel they are depressed may develop other stress related symptoms like headaches, fatigue, sleeplessness, and over eating/drinking. These symptoms can negatively affect our health and well being not to mention our daily activities at home and the workplace. There is only so much an individual can do to try to make the holidays perfect before burning out.

Spending time with friends and family always makes the holidays more enjoyable. Without these very important people, there would be no holiday dinners, parties, gift giving, vacation or visitors to worry about. Unfortunately, there are individuals, who have lost their wealth of family or friends due to a death in the family, a fight/argument, relocation, and even disabilities such as a behavioral disorder, mental health diagnosis, or even substance or chemical dependency. Reconnecting with lost friends or family members can heal feelings of solitude and loneliness. A phone call or an unexpected visit can be just the gift someone needs.

Holiday depression may come after the holiday season, around the New Year. As everyone gears up for an ambitious New Year full of resolutions and goals, others may dwell on objectives that were never met, goals that never manifested, and hopes that never came true. Depression makes it harder to look forward to the future.

To make the holidays more manageable, make realistic goals. Don't take on more responsibilities than you can handle. Letting others help with holiday planning will lighten the stress of trying to do everything on your own. Preparing a budget before you go shopping will help eliminate the financial strain. Volunteering at a local church or food pantry may curb feelings of loneliness and will give you an opportunity to meet people and make new friends. Most importantly, remember to make time for yourself. If you're feeling too overwhelmed and find it too depressing to go about your daily activities, you may need to seek professional services. Help is available through Cayuga County Mental Health Crisis Line, which is a 24 hour Emergency Service, at 253-0341.

Quote of the Week:

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

- Eleanor Roosevelt

Amanda Derby is the housing advocate for Options for Independence.