During the holiday season, millions of children write out mile long wish lists. For most children, the list is pretty self explanatory: Susie wants a Barbie, Little Tommy wants a video game, and of course the accident prone twins want roller-skates.

What do you do when a child with a disability asks for a toy that may not be accessible? You treat the child the same as you would any other child, disability or not. It wouldn't be very nice if a child with a disability was always receiving socks and pajamas because their gift was not accessible.

Many toys are not easily accessible for children with disabilities, but children don't choose a toy because of its accessibility. They choose a toy because it looks fun, their friends have it, and they want to play with others. Children with disabilities will often learn to modify the toy on their own. Children are very creative and this will teach them to be successful in a very inaccessible world. By giving a “special” gift, the child may feel isolated like they don't fit in and aren't capable of participating in mainstream society.

Rocking horses can be easily modified by adding a belt or a raised seat for an individual who may need more help balancing. Puzzles can have knobs added to the top of pieces to make grasping easier for a child with reduced dexterity. Most modifications are inexpensive and use basic materials.

If a toy can not be adapted so the child can play independently, accessing the help of friends and siblings to play along is always a beneficial alternative. Playing with each other teaches children with disabilities and their peers how to interact and cooperate with one another. Interacting with one another is imperative for communication and for a successful inclusive environment. Social interaction gives children with disabilities the opportunity to have fun while developing communication skills such as speaking and listening.

Always remember that toys are meant to be fun but should also encourage creativity and choice making for all children. Toys can promote development in all ages and abilities. Playing can be both educational and fun. A child should not feel frustrated over a gift. The gift is intended to include them and not make them feel segregated from their peers who do not have a disability. Give toys that are sturdy, durable, safe and size appropriate for all of the well-behaved children, no matter what their ability is.

A toy shouldn't segregate or stop a child with a disability from having the same amount of fun as their friends and family. Children with disabilities want to be included in activities and events like their peers are. They will learn to develop and adapt a method of playing with their toys that accommodate them. We want to integrate individuals with disabilities into society, not segregate them. Differential treatment produces feelings of inequality and eliminates inclusion. Giving a gift that an individual with a disability truly wanted is a gift within itself.

Quote of the week:

“Disability is a matter of perception. If you can do just one thing well, you're needed by someone.”

- Martina Navratilova

Amanda Derby is the housing advocate for Options for Independence. She can be reached at 255-3447.