" I agree 100% that as parents it is our responsibility to monitor what our kids leave the house in. My sons attempted the saggy pants move at one point and I told them if I caught them with their boxers out and their pants halfway down their butts - I would replace their pants with waist high jeans and suspenders period, no wiggle room. They listened. However I do note that at their school the girls are allowed to dress provocatively while the boys are restricted from wearing offensive t-shirts (fine by me), baggy pants and hats (all fine by me.) But what message does that send? We, as a culture, set our girls up as sex-objects and subtly encourage that type of dress perhaps without even realizing we're doing it. I also note that there are several young and attractive female teachers at the school who dress in the same manner and my boys comment on it all the time. So yes, monitoring what our kids wear starts in the home but it carries over to school as well. They need good role models in all areas where they interact with adults and that includes school and the MEDIA as well. We've created a culture these past several decades of hedonism, materialism that doesn't mesh well with our ideals of individualism, which we encourage. My point is there is much more that needs to change in society if we are going to be able to compete as parents with what our kids are bombarded with in the "real" world. "

" How do you tell your 16 year old daughter who works and makes her own money that she can't buy the clothes she wants? Pretty simple, you tell her she can't buy the clothes she wants! She's 16 and under your roof, grow a spine and lay down the law! Kids need to be taught that there are consequences from breaking the rules, at home and at school. One should be blamed for being a bad parent or bad teacher if you refuse to enforce the rules that are set to protect your kids and help them grow up to be responsible adults. One thing we can agree on, parenting IS hard, but it gets harder when you won't do the right thing by your kids and they go out of control. "

" I can't stand people who think they are better than other people, especially at parenting... It is a tough job! Kids are much more sneaky now a days than they were years ago. How do you tell your 16 year old daughter who is working and making her own money that she cannot buy the clothes that she wants? There is not one perfect parent out there, and the one's that think they are, you are in for a rude awakening! I totally agree with the comment that if students are expected to follow a dress code, teacher's should as well... these kids go to school for an education.. just because they may wear a shirt that someone my not think is appropriate, it doesn't mean that they aren't an A student.. times have changed, if you can't roll with them, then you need to find a hole someplace.. Enforcing a dress code is great, but it needs to be a team effort, with both parents and teachers... one should not be BLAMED for being a bad parent or teacher.. come on now, let's get real here!! "

" This happened on one occassion, and it was addressed quickly, and hasn't happened again. My point is how did this go unnoticed by Teacher's? Don't try to tell me that you are a perfect parent and you have perfect children, give me a freakin break! Kids will be kids, were you or were you not a kid? The dress code should be enforced, but by the school that they are attending and it should be their responsibility to send that child home or to get in touch with the parents! What is wrong with putting a little fear in them that something will happen other than at home?? "

" by both male and female students in school is outrageous. I have to ask the parent who wrote..." My daughter leaves the house in one outfit but returns with caked makeup and different clothes. How the heck do you allow this to go on? Talk about enabling your daughters' behavior. If you stop in to the school any given day for a few weeks to observe what she is up to with these changes in clothes/makeup and pull her from school each time you find this happens she will change her tune fast. It is your responsibility to "Parent" your child. The school dress codes need to be enforced. "

" kids wear what the parents ALLOW them to wear...simple as that. "

" If there is a dress code let it be for teachers as well as students. A uniform not needed just common sense, An example would be no under wear showing not tube tops or belly showing tops or bottoms. no ofensive sayings on clothing against any one. that leaves a lot of stuf to wear, after that is up to parents and teachers to set an example, "

" I agree to a point, parents should be parents and teachers be teachers, but the truth is these teachers spend more time with our children 5 out of 7 days a week than we do. We can buy certain clothing and we can send them out the door in the mornings looking a certain way. My daughter has come home from school in different clothing or with tons of makeup on her face. How is she able to do this "extream makeover" during school hours? And Don't the teachers notice? The young girls now a days have this "image" of what looks good, what gets them attention, and what makes them stand out. Parent's can only do so much.. especially with these new disipline laws coming out each day. Most of us parents are at a breaking point and usually have other children (younger children) that we need to take care of as well... My point is yes parents should be parents, but teachers shouldn't be afraid to feel like they can't speak to a child about dress code or whatever other issues arise in the course of the day... If the children were afraid of what might happen at school if they show up in skimpy clothes, or with tons of makeup on their faces, maybe they would think twice!! But they aren't because no one is enforcing these codes at school's... "

" I totally agree with you Beverly!! "